Perfectionism and Proving Your Worth: How to Stop Chasing Approval and Start Living the Life You Actually Want

OK, buckle up, today's conversation on The Best of You podcast goes deep, and we both get really honest about own struggles. I could have talked with Mary for hours about how to get off the treadmill of perfecting and proving your worth-and start claiming the life you actually want. You do not want to miss the end where we get into social media, the curse of comparison, and the approval chain from which no one is immune.

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We touch on so much in this episode, including:

1. The hidden fears that drive us to perfect and prove our way into belonging

2. If we let go of working to earn the approval of others, then what?

3. The moment Mary discovered that chasing gold stars was not leading her to what she actually wanted

4. The pitfalls and perils of social media

5.  How to get out of comparison traps

6.  The voice in our heads that keeps us running in circles

7.  The real mark of emotional health (and it's *not* never failing or never feeling hurt)  

8. 3 questions to ask yourself as you stop chasing approval:

• If tomorrow, it were all gone:
  • What would you do differently?
  • What would you roll up your sleeves and do the hard work of rebuilding again?
  • What doesn't seem to matter anymore? (Questions from Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots)

Connect with Mary at www.marymarantz.com/quiz

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Music by Andy Luiten/Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

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Resources

• Grab a copy of Mary's new book Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots wherever books are sold
• Dirt, by Mary Marantz
• Boundaries for Your Soul, by Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller
• How to make daily commitments to yourself in The Best of You Chapter 6
• Episode 10: What are Limiting Beliefs and How Do I Overcome Them with Mary Marantz
• "Wherever you Go There You Are" is the title of a book by Jon Kabat-Zinn
• Over the Top: Moving from Survival to Stability from Stability to Success, from Success to Significance
• Alison on The Mary Marantz Show
• Resources for support