Have you heard the often-quoted verse: “He must become greater; I must become less” (John 3:30)?
When taken out of context, this verse can be misused as a call to diminish yourself or make yourself small. While it’s true that we shouldn't exalt ourselves in selfish ways, this verse can sometimes lead us to "become less" in unhealthy ways, such as:
- Stifling a genuine need.
- Suppressing your voice or emotions.
- Denying the strengths you've been given.
We hide our needs, talents, or desires in the name of humility. We tell ourselves that playing small is noble or even spiritual. But in this case "humility" is often a misnaming. Hiding leads to chronic self-doubt, resentment, and feelings of invisibility. True humility, on the other hand, leads to courage, agency, and freedom.
Like any scripture passage, it’s essential to understand John 3:30 within its historical context. The person who spoke these words, John the Baptist, had a powerful ministry at the same time Jesus was launching his. In fact, some of John’s followers came to warn him that people were beginning to leave John's ministry to follow Jesus.
In that moment, John the Baptist was confronted with a profound choice—a moment of what psychologists call "agency." He had the power to decide: would he could compete with Jesus to retain his followers? Or would he step aside and point his followers toward Jesus?
John used his power with integrity, prioritizing what was genuinely best for the people who trusted him. He pointed his followers to Jesus.
His choice demonstrated true humility that wasn’t about "hiding'—he wasn't denying his gifts or influence; instead he had the confidence to harness his power in service of a greater purpose. When John spoke about "becoming less," he was speaking out of a clear awareness of the power he held.
Step Aside or Stand Strong
Sometimes, like John, we are called to step aside. Other times, we're called to stand strong in our power, leaning into our calling—even if it ruffles some feathers.
If you're unsure whether God is nudging you to step aside or stand strong, consider these questions:
- Am I stepping back because it's genuinely needed, or because I'm doubting my abilities or worth?
- Have I sought wisdom from trusted mentors who can offer perspective?
- Am I prioritizing the well-being of others, or am I driven by my own fear, self-doubt or insecurities?
- How will my choice contribute to healing—either by creating space for others or through fully embracing my calling?
Ultimately, the decision to step aside or stand strong is an invitation to trust God’s leading and align your heart with his purpose. By reflecting on your motives and seeking God's wisdom, you can move forward with humility and confidence, knowing your actions honor God. Whether you create space for others or fully embrace your power, you're part of a greater story of healing—both in your life and the lives of those around you.
"You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead, they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven."
—Matthew 5:14-16
